A Basic Etiquette Guide for Non-Transgender People Who Want To Help

Photo from Broadly.

He, she, they. Ze, zir! Finally, transgender people are becoming more accepted and included. However, there is still a lot of change that needs to happen — and it starts at the personal level. Although some of the accommodations we use for trans people may seem inconvenient to non-transgender people, they make a big difference for everyone. You don’t have to have a PhD in gender studies to understand or use these tools. All you need is a willingness to listen and some basic empathy.

Talking to transgender people…


The only book this nonbinary trans person wants to read right now.

What are the best comics to read during the apocalypse? I woke up with an insane craving for Transmetropolitan, an epic, Hunter S. Thompson-infused futuristic thriller by Warren Ellis about a gonzo journalist who untangles a conspiracy theory that is hiding in plain sight. I called Bridge City Comics and, lucky me, they had the entire series.

I placed my order over the phone and picked up all 10 books a couple days later. (Bridge City Comics also offers delivery or shipping, for an additional fee.) While I was talking to owner Michael Ring, I asked for his recommendations: what…


This personal essay appeared in The Review Review in September 2016.

What do you need to write?

A pen and paper, for some people. Keyboard. You need a table or a lap or a drawing board. If you’re making an outline or storyboard, you need a wall to pin your notes on and watch them as they migrate. These objects and surfaces have to be secure, too. The worst fear is leaving a notebook open and losing pages to the wind. A writer is usually one hard drive crash away from total misery.

But, looking more deeply, the writer’s craft…


Claire Rudy Foster in conversation with Richard Chiem at Elliott Bay Book Company, Nov. 21, 2019

Cover art by CB Messer.

A book tour is like all the best parts of going to your own funeral. Following the publication of my short story collection Shine of the Ever (Interlude Press), I set out to visit indie bookstores in six cities to read, share the collection, and meet the readers who have been so supportive of my writing. It was a joy. This November, I read in Olympia, Portland, Bend, Philadelphia, New York City, and Seattle. (I’ll hit the road again in January.)

Is it silly to say that love still overwhelms me? Writing a book is a lonely, difficult endeavor. On…


An Interview with Foster, Oct. 16, 2019

I was so happy to speak with “Longing For The Spirit” host Paul Silva about recovery, transition, and my new book Shine of the Ever. Paul and I have known each other for more than 5 years, and he has been a supportive friend and witness to many of the changes I’ve experienced.

It means to much to hear him call me by my chosen name and pronouns. When I met Paul, I was “Claire” and she/her. Now, I’m “Foster” and he/they. I’m still a writer, solo parent, trauma survivor, and person in recovery. However, learning about my gender…


Performed at Corporeal Writing on Oct. 7, 2019

Last week, my tits flew away. I use the word “tits” for three reasons: because I like it, because it is a single syllable, and because it’s the name of a passerine songbird. Tits are small, stocky, woodland birds with short, stout bills. Tits nest in cavities and tend to be monogamous.

Mine were not always monogamous.

Six days ago, I had a double incision mastectomy with nipple grafts: top surgery, the aesthetic masculinization of my chest. …


Marcelle Heath interviews Foster for Apparel For Authors

The clothes make the man. Or woman. Or gender non-conforming person. Claire Rudy Foster talks to Marcelle Heath about subverting the popular image of nonbinary trans people, playing with queerness in the public eye, and how clothing is a language in their new collection Shine of the Ever.

Photo by Elizabeth Ehrenpreis.

How does your identity intersect with the way you dress?

Nonbinary trans people are represented as thin, white, and masculine-presenting in advertising and media. Not all of us look like that. One of the reasons I choose florals, bright colors, and gender-neutral smocks or tunics is to subvert the popular image of…


Success stories are built on relationships. Does that mean writers shouldn’t pay for reviews, publicity, or conferences?

The creative dance shouldn’t depend solely on your friends’ approval.

First, a few things about me. I’ve been a professional book reviewer since 2009. I review work from independent presses and self published authors. My reviews are absolutely worth $500 a pop. (Though that’s not what I charge.)

In addition to writing reviews, I’ve edited manuscripts for Simon & Schuster as well as many self published and indie authors. I’ve read submission slush. My first book was published by a micro press in 2016. My second is forthcoming from indie powerhouse Interlude Press in November 2019. The books I co-author and ghostwrite have been published by large and small houses…


Dean’s nightmarish vision of the Old West is a page-turner.

There’s blood, and then there’s cold blood. Robert Dean’s intense second novel The Red Seven, from Necro Publications, has plenty of both. Out to avenge his brother’s family, an infamous bounty hunter known only as The Ghost hunts the seven killers responsible for the murders. “One more crooked cross planted in the ground in the name of revenge,” the first page promises, and Dean is as good as his word.

The Red Seven revels in its Western roots. Fans of the genre will find plenty to like here — Dean is liberal in his interpretation of “revenge,” and The Ghost’s…


A conversation between authors, Lauren J. Sharkey and ND Chan on Asian American identity, adoption, being queer and being seen.

Model minority? White on the inside? No way. Asian-American women, nonbinary people, and femmes are often portrayed as one-dimensional. Authors Lauren J. Sharkey and ND Chan discuss the complexities of their own identities as Asian-American writers with rich personal histories. Photo by Seth Casteel, via The Guardian.

Lauren: So, I don’t know about you, but when I envision an “American,” I always see a white person. Not necessarily male or female, no other defining qualities, just a white person. That’s not to say I don’t consider people of color Americans, but when it comes to defining what an American looks like, I have a difficult time reconciling what I look like compared to who I think an American is.

ND: But what’s interesting is that when I go to China to visit family, I am always perceived as American, which is the opposite here.

Lauren: It’s been…

Foster Rudy

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